We can fear for all kinds of reasons. If we are afraid because we think we may lose some kind of status or become a smaller self because by losing our identity, we are unfortunate indeed. We are capture in a less life a false self and a debilitated manner of ‘being.’ We are what we believe which is why it is a great advantage to be aligned with what Jesus believes and not off on a tangent with our own gospel.
There are folks who live from a poverty mentality who are not poor. But their parents and they, have told themselves that they are. Living out of scarcity there is ‘never enough’ to their mind. So they rely on two thing that hollow out their persona. (1) They cling to what they have in a spiritual version of hoarding. (2) They denigrate the spiritual wealth that others have in order to rationalise their inferior mindset and resultant poverty. For these people their fictions are their ‘wealth.’ Jeff Turner observes,
We can become dependent on a concept of the self that is not the real self but a construct that we have derived from externalities and structures. This is particularly so when we are the children of an ideology or a religion. If we have been ‘fathered’ by a religion we may not know what real love is. We may even persuade ourselves that our attachment in this dependency is love for God and loyalty to Jesus. It can seem like it but it is not real love. M Scott Peck observes,
“Dependency may appear to be love because it is a force that causes people to fiercely attach themselves to one another. But in actuality it is not love; it is a form of anti-love. It has its genesis in a parental failure to love and it perpetuates the failure. It seeks to receive rather than to give. It nourishes infantilism rather than growth. It works to trap and constrict rather than to liberate. Ultimately it destroys rather than builds relationships, and it destroys rather than builds people.” ― M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Travelled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values, and Spiritual Growth